Admitedly, its not so bad :P At the beginning it was a battle to get out of bed (and it still is :P) and i got lost enough times for the rest of this year, but I think i've grown into it or something and i'm actually beginning to enjoy it hehe... though it ends next week :P
I've been on a roll lately... Hanging out at hotels in Orchard and Raffles, interviewing CEOs (yup the CEO of Great Eastern is an absolute darling! the best out of the lot :D), being taken out for coffee a LOT (Starbucks is heavenly and even better when ur not paying for it :P) and cabbing all over the city... And all this while making money and not even working all 5 days :D And the other interns are a fun bunch :) So all in all i guess its abt time i stopped complaining that i'd rather be sleeping ;)
Single girls...
I've come to the conclusion that the single girls I know fall into two broad categories:
1) Those who are actually happy and comfortable to be single, don't have weird issues with men and men related topics, have normal relationships with guys, just haven't found their significant others yet, but aren't depressed or mopey about it either.
2) Those who are single and have issues with being single. These issues manifest themselves in several ways, a few examples being declarations of how men are sad and unnecessary and a waste of time, or of how no guy out there is good enough or the right one or how they'd rather invest in clothes and shoes than in a relationship...I think its what psychologists call a latent defence mechanism... To spare their own selves from the truth... On the other extreme, they just sporadically keep dating but never really commit, and end up very broken at the end.
These girls are a bit difficult to be around, because either there is constant snubbing at couples or men in general, or there are a lot of broken hearts to deal with.
Now this is just something I've observed, because I know girls who fit into both categories, and honestly speaking the ones in the first category are a lot happier and more stable. I'm sure everyone goes through being in both categories at some time or the other, but for their own sake, I hope they don't become a permanent resident in category 2 (it's really not healthy and not much fun to always be so cynical about these things). What's more disturbing is that everyone around category 2 girls, except the girls themselves, knows that they are like this because they don't want to face the harsh truth that they don't want to be single.
There is nothing wrong with being single. It comes with its own merits and freedom, and it only becomes an issue when you start thinking of it as an issue, or start comparing yourself to your attached friends. I'm a very strong believer in the idea that there's a right time and place for everything, and sometimes you just have to wait for the good things in life.
Disclaimer: I'm not trying to be all judgemental about single girls, because I've been single too and I know what it's like. This is just an opinion and a disturbing trend that's caught my attention.
1) Those who are actually happy and comfortable to be single, don't have weird issues with men and men related topics, have normal relationships with guys, just haven't found their significant others yet, but aren't depressed or mopey about it either.
2) Those who are single and have issues with being single. These issues manifest themselves in several ways, a few examples being declarations of how men are sad and unnecessary and a waste of time, or of how no guy out there is good enough or the right one or how they'd rather invest in clothes and shoes than in a relationship...I think its what psychologists call a latent defence mechanism... To spare their own selves from the truth... On the other extreme, they just sporadically keep dating but never really commit, and end up very broken at the end.
These girls are a bit difficult to be around, because either there is constant snubbing at couples or men in general, or there are a lot of broken hearts to deal with.
Now this is just something I've observed, because I know girls who fit into both categories, and honestly speaking the ones in the first category are a lot happier and more stable. I'm sure everyone goes through being in both categories at some time or the other, but for their own sake, I hope they don't become a permanent resident in category 2 (it's really not healthy and not much fun to always be so cynical about these things). What's more disturbing is that everyone around category 2 girls, except the girls themselves, knows that they are like this because they don't want to face the harsh truth that they don't want to be single.
There is nothing wrong with being single. It comes with its own merits and freedom, and it only becomes an issue when you start thinking of it as an issue, or start comparing yourself to your attached friends. I'm a very strong believer in the idea that there's a right time and place for everything, and sometimes you just have to wait for the good things in life.
Disclaimer: I'm not trying to be all judgemental about single girls, because I've been single too and I know what it's like. This is just an opinion and a disturbing trend that's caught my attention.
Swedish Midsummer in Singapore ;)
Yup it was kinda revisiting another part of my life, from way long ago, a lot of which i don't remember cos i was too little, but i do remember the maypole and the flowers in my hair :)
Swedish Midsummer is on the 21st and 22nd of June, when Swedes celebrate the longest day in the 2-3 week summer in Sweden. Its the day of the midnight sun too, where you can actually see the sun at midnight in the north of Sweden and other places there.
Erik and Shirin invited Nips and me over for the celebrations :) it was a really good night, and we did everything but dance around the makeshift maypole in the living room (a chair :P) They'd made all these traditional swedish dishes and finger food, and we had mango margaritas and shots of Schnapps, which are these alcoholic drinks with different spices in them. Hehe they went down fast and strong, and i'm still recovering :P
But what was best and most refreshing i think was meeting all those really cool ppl. There was Gustav from Sweden, June who's Singaporean but African-American-Malay, Dave from Leeds, Christine from some Chinese-Dutch-Portugese-Indian heritage, and Kiran, Max, Erik and Shirin of course. I blended in nicely with my hybrid background too ;) They had so many interesting stories about life and the culture in different countries, and I learnt so much just listening to them while laughing our guts out :D
I think one of the mistakes i made in university was not staying in touch with my 'international' friends enough. Maybe its the whole sieged mentality thing when we come here as foreign students and tend to stick with our own for company. But i've learned the hard way that most of the time, thats a mistake, and more often than not, you're better off making new friends :) But that's a story for another time...
All in all, it was a great midsummer night ;) It'll be nice to flip through the old albums at home and see the pics of little me holding hands and doing the 'frog dance' around the real maypole with flowers in my hair and a big smile on my face, and think that even in Singapore, 15 yrs later, the big smile on my face is still there. I just need those flowers... ;)
Swedish Midsummer is on the 21st and 22nd of June, when Swedes celebrate the longest day in the 2-3 week summer in Sweden. Its the day of the midnight sun too, where you can actually see the sun at midnight in the north of Sweden and other places there.
Erik and Shirin invited Nips and me over for the celebrations :) it was a really good night, and we did everything but dance around the makeshift maypole in the living room (a chair :P) They'd made all these traditional swedish dishes and finger food, and we had mango margaritas and shots of Schnapps, which are these alcoholic drinks with different spices in them. Hehe they went down fast and strong, and i'm still recovering :P
But what was best and most refreshing i think was meeting all those really cool ppl. There was Gustav from Sweden, June who's Singaporean but African-American-Malay, Dave from Leeds, Christine from some Chinese-Dutch-Portugese-Indian heritage, and Kiran, Max, Erik and Shirin of course. I blended in nicely with my hybrid background too ;) They had so many interesting stories about life and the culture in different countries, and I learnt so much just listening to them while laughing our guts out :D
I think one of the mistakes i made in university was not staying in touch with my 'international' friends enough. Maybe its the whole sieged mentality thing when we come here as foreign students and tend to stick with our own for company. But i've learned the hard way that most of the time, thats a mistake, and more often than not, you're better off making new friends :) But that's a story for another time...
All in all, it was a great midsummer night ;) It'll be nice to flip through the old albums at home and see the pics of little me holding hands and doing the 'frog dance' around the real maypole with flowers in my hair and a big smile on my face, and think that even in Singapore, 15 yrs later, the big smile on my face is still there. I just need those flowers... ;)
A peek into the awesomeness of Breaking Benjamin...
"Diary of Jane" (acoustic)
"Breath"
"So cold"
Ok so if the dark and gloomy vids are creepy, u can close ur eyes :P
"Breath"
"So cold"
Ok so if the dark and gloomy vids are creepy, u can close ur eyes :P
My bestest friend :)
I sat in my room today for a long time thinking about how far back my best friend Nams and I go back.. We've been friends for more than 10 yrs now, well almost 15 I think, and she's getting married next month :D Some times I really can't believe we've grown up so much...I'm ecstatic for her, and I know that she and Sean will have a really great life together :) Like one of those matches made in heaven ;) I just wish I could be there.. :( I'm graduating the day before her wedding, and my parents will be here that weekend and I would've also started the new job, so I can't fly back for the wedding...
The timing really sucks :( She'd sent the invitations back home in SL and mum read them to me today... Sounds just like Namsy :) She also has a website with all the wedding stuff on it... Made me cry! All those years back in school when we used to talk about our 'future' weddings, I can't imagine hers being any different :) Right now I'd give anything to be there for the big day... it feels almost as important to me as my own wedding day, and this is something we've talked about for ages and its finally here... And I'm missing it :(
That's one of the downs of being away from home I guess... You miss out on a lot of important stuff you swore at 14 you'd be there for, but life happens in the meantime and you just can't make it...
Anyways to one of the few people who's stuck with me through everything for the last 15 yrs, and one of the fewer people who totally gets me and who's been armed with tissues and a shoulder whenever I needed it, I'll be right there with u next month in spirit ;) Love you loads Nams...
The timing really sucks :( She'd sent the invitations back home in SL and mum read them to me today... Sounds just like Namsy :) She also has a website with all the wedding stuff on it... Made me cry! All those years back in school when we used to talk about our 'future' weddings, I can't imagine hers being any different :) Right now I'd give anything to be there for the big day... it feels almost as important to me as my own wedding day, and this is something we've talked about for ages and its finally here... And I'm missing it :(
That's one of the downs of being away from home I guess... You miss out on a lot of important stuff you swore at 14 you'd be there for, but life happens in the meantime and you just can't make it...
Anyways to one of the few people who's stuck with me through everything for the last 15 yrs, and one of the fewer people who totally gets me and who's been armed with tissues and a shoulder whenever I needed it, I'll be right there with u next month in spirit ;) Love you loads Nams...
One of my idols...
... is Garfield :D I know he's a 'fat cat' and all that, but if u really think abt it, he's also sarcastic, funny, lazy to the bone, and always gets what he wants :D And he LOVES lasangna ;) Which is what makes him so great :)
My other idol is...
*drumroll*
Edna Mode :D For reasons that are pretty obvious ;)
Ok maybe its a bit disturbing that all my idols are cartoon characters :s
My other idol is...
*drumroll*
Edna Mode :D For reasons that are pretty obvious ;)
Ok maybe its a bit disturbing that all my idols are cartoon characters :s
And so it begins...
Yup, I started a blog, after years of thinking that it wasn't really my thing. I actually feel a bit hypocritical abt it :P But what the heck, in line with the whole 'living for the experience' theme that I've decided to stick to, I figured it wouldn't hurt to try. But don't be surprised if this turns out to be the only post :P
But come to think of it, I should've done this during uni... I'd have had a lot more to say and complain abt ;) I guess once work and stuff picks up the rants will start full swing too...
So over the last half of the year a lot has happened. I went through all the possible stages of the 'FYP trauma' and then had exams and was actually most worried abt my S/U module since I did nothing worthy of an S :P Then there was the job hunt, the apartment hunt, and all the woes of graduating and entering the real world outside the little shell I'd created for myself in NUS...
But all's good now. I'm no longer jobless or homeless, and now I'm just working on the penniless bit :P Part time jobs like the one I'm doing can be draining sometimes : contrary to all logic..
I'm looking forward to moving to the new place, starting the new job, and graduation :D It's like living thru the phases of the 'whole new chapter' thing and it's not really as cool as it sounds :P There's a lot of stress that comes with change... and when u have all this change happening at once, its a LOT of stress...
But I'm gonna miss NUS. Well ok certain parts of NUS :P I never thought I'd say this 4 yrs ago, but I'm seriously gonna miss the place and the freedom that came with being a student... And I'm gonna miss my friends and the fact that they were 5 mins away all these yrs.... But I'm not gonna miss the exams and assignments and lab.. but I won't be far away so I have a feeling I'm still gonna come by now and then ;)
Onto other news, I am officially in love with the graduation hat :$ My parents are coming down and I'm really excited... They've been planning this for so long and with all the hiccups over the last month I hope everything settles down in time and they have a really good trip :)
I also owe bro, mum, dad and Nips a HUGE thank u :) For putting up with the not-so-nice version of Amri that emerged over the last couple of weeks... Due to all the stress I tell u :$ I swear she's changing back to the fun version now ;) My other friends too, u know who u are, and I love u guys!
I'm signing out now to go enjoy my day off ;) I'll be back soon enuf...
But come to think of it, I should've done this during uni... I'd have had a lot more to say and complain abt ;) I guess once work and stuff picks up the rants will start full swing too...
So over the last half of the year a lot has happened. I went through all the possible stages of the 'FYP trauma' and then had exams and was actually most worried abt my S/U module since I did nothing worthy of an S :P Then there was the job hunt, the apartment hunt, and all the woes of graduating and entering the real world outside the little shell I'd created for myself in NUS...
But all's good now. I'm no longer jobless or homeless, and now I'm just working on the penniless bit :P Part time jobs like the one I'm doing can be draining sometimes : contrary to all logic..
I'm looking forward to moving to the new place, starting the new job, and graduation :D It's like living thru the phases of the 'whole new chapter' thing and it's not really as cool as it sounds :P There's a lot of stress that comes with change... and when u have all this change happening at once, its a LOT of stress...
But I'm gonna miss NUS. Well ok certain parts of NUS :P I never thought I'd say this 4 yrs ago, but I'm seriously gonna miss the place and the freedom that came with being a student... And I'm gonna miss my friends and the fact that they were 5 mins away all these yrs.... But I'm not gonna miss the exams and assignments and lab.. but I won't be far away so I have a feeling I'm still gonna come by now and then ;)
Onto other news, I am officially in love with the graduation hat :$ My parents are coming down and I'm really excited... They've been planning this for so long and with all the hiccups over the last month I hope everything settles down in time and they have a really good trip :)
I also owe bro, mum, dad and Nips a HUGE thank u :) For putting up with the not-so-nice version of Amri that emerged over the last couple of weeks... Due to all the stress I tell u :$ I swear she's changing back to the fun version now ;) My other friends too, u know who u are, and I love u guys!
I'm signing out now to go enjoy my day off ;) I'll be back soon enuf...
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